The Story Of Fantasia
I called my mother up yesterday and asked if she heard the news about Fantasia. My mother, who doesn’t get into celebrity gossip at all, said that she had heard something about an affair. When I told her that Fantasia allegedly attempted to commit suicide, she fell silent. “Oh no,” I heard her whisper over the phone. “What happened?” she asked. I told her the story from what I had read and she said, “Damn…how did she get to this point, I wonder?”
I wonder the same thing. Where there is belief and faith, this point should not even exist. That makes me question if she was off her center; meaning, had she lost her way with the God that she serves? I understand being overwhelmed and scared to deal with the repercussions and consequences of her actions. I even understand the pain and hurt she must feel as a result of this relationship. What I don’t understand is denying the fact that love is present in her life, with her daughter and her family, and wanting to give up.
Life is not easy. As women, we often look for love in all the wrong places, usually finding it attached to some bullshit and drama. That is, of course, if we don’t love ourselves enough to take a step back and listen to that small voice that whispers in our ear and tells us that we are headed for a mistake. Even when we do listen to that voice, we can still step in some shit and have to deal with the heartache and pain of not remainign at our center.
We can talk for hours on the why and how this happened. I don’t care to engage in that conversation, other than to say that we are on the outside looking in. No one knows really what the story is; no one knows where the feelings and bonds lie. I think we can all clearly see there is some pain here; pain that I pray Fantasia is able to let go of and move on.
I was saddened by this news. One reason was because I believe that Fantasia is a strong woman who is perhaps getting the raw deal out of this whole thing. I don’t mean to lessen the blame that she must own; what I mean is that even though it takes two to tango, it is she who will bear the brunt of what the both of them have done. I just happened to be watching CNN tonight and the man’s name that she has been dating was only mentioned once…once! Correct me if I’m wrong, but he is the one who is/was married, right? Where is the anger at him for dipping out on his wife? What is even sadder is that women go through this everyday, outside of the public eye. There seems to be no distinguishing line between morality and debauchery, and instances like this pop up all the time, like it is normal.
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I’m a little late on this post but thankfully she has recovered and is doing well.
I was really sad when I heard about the whole suicide attempt. Honestly, I can say that there have been moments in my life when I felt like laying down and just never getting up. I just have to keep reminding myself that better days will come, this moment will pass and (most of all) my children need me.
I was even really depressed over the end of a relationship then I had to slap myself and say guess what he ain’t depressed. He is back out there and dating new people. So, sitting here and crying over him is not going to bring him back and not being on the earth is not going to hurt him.
Anyway, your right the guy who cheats always seems to get an easier pass than the woman. Women will fight each other over who should be with the cheater.
Hopefully, Fantasia has learned and grown and will continue to move forward for her sake and her daughter.