Sunday’s Thoughts: What Is Sexy?

Lately I’ve been thinking about what makes a man or woman sexy. Is it his/her physique? Character? Mystique? Or just a combination of things? We are bombarded with images of scantily clad women and men and they are deemed sexy…but are they really? What is sexy to you?

The definition of sexy, according to the Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary, is “sexually suggestive or stimulating,” and “generally attractive or interesting.” Hmm. That is pretty vague, huh? The FreeDictionary gives the definition, “arousing or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest.” A little better. But I think I will define for myself what I think sexy is.

Sexy to me is someone who walks into a room quietly, unassuming. He is assured and confident so he doesn’t need to make a loud entrance. He is well-dressed, not necessarily in the latest gear, but classic, understated, and his clothing fit well. He is tall, over 6 ft., dark chocolate skin, close fade haircut, maybe a diamond in his ear (but tiny, nothing overstated). His teeth are sparkling white, and his smile lights up the room and makes your heart flutter. He is professional and works hard, whether he is a lawyer, a maintenance man, or a teacher. If he has children, he is a dedicated father. He gets along with his ex-wife/girlfriend/baby momma, so there is no drama. He loves going to the movies, or cuddling up on the sofa for a movie marathon at home. He thinks Tupac is a brilliant poet; and thinks Kanye and Common are the truth. He loves the Temptations and Aretha Franklin and all Motown artists. His love for music is as deep as yours. He loves to break out and dance in the middle of the living room, just because. He believes in cleanliness. When you make love, he is passionate and attentive. He cares about your needs and makes sure that you are fulfilled.

Oh, the dreams I dream! Again, I ask the question, what is sexy to you? Let me know in the comments…

It’s all love, baby… 

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