Sunday’s Thoughts: No More Drama

I live a blessed life…I’m not wealthy, but I have enough to do what I want, when I want…being laid off did not cause a disaster in my life because I had worked for 15 years and the company gave me one helluva severance package and benefits. I have a roof over my head and am able to pay my bills and take care of me and my son without assistance. I am surrounded by people who love and care for me, and I have peace and joy and am content with my life.

It took me a while to get to the point of contentment. I used to be wrapped up in drama all the time, moving from one soap opera scene to the next, with quickness and seemingly without thinking. I think it was my way of staying involved; of always being in the spotlight, begging for attention. People who are involved in drama are doing just that: begging for attention. They have to have their names associated with something, good or bad, and don’t seem to realize that drama is not good. As I got older, I realized that drama was wearing me down, taking away the energy that I could be using for other things in my life.

Now, I avoid drama in my life by resolving conflict tactfully and privately. I don’t involve others in my business. There are very few people that I confide in, people that I trust; I don’t have control over the other parties that I’m involved with. They can go and spread whatever they wish; it is how I deal with rumors that frees me. I can choose to go off and involve myself in the back and forth, trying to clear my name, or I can choose to ignore the rumors, because they are mostly untrue anyway. Rumors are fabrications made to make you look bad; I no longer get sucked up in dealing with them. I choose to let rumors die on their own. And if people know me, they will be able to tell which rumors are true or false.

Drama can break you; it can weigh on your spirit, it can cause immense stress, unnecessary conflict, senseless arguments…I stay away from it because I need peace. Once I found peace, I discovered that I liked it and wanted to stay in that place. I will not be moved for some silly shit.

It’s all love, baby… 

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